Friday, September 01, 2006

Trust

I believe that one of the most basic building blocks of humanity is trust, trust that is ever evolving, trust that is susceptible to the harsh elements of reality.

When one is taken out of his mother’s womb, the instinct is that for the infant to trust the mother because of the protection and nurture it gets from her. This is what I like to call trust attributed to instinct. This type of trust is of course helpful to the infant but not to the mother (a speculation). It is primarily a one way trust wherein one is trusted because of the benefits the other avails from that person.

Another type of trust is a trust between good friends. I like to call this mutual trust. This type of trust in contrast to the aforementioned is a two way relationship. A concrete example may be the trust person A has for person B in a group wherein A is confident that B won’t do anything to embarrass or derogate him. This can also be observed between friends wherein one watches over the other and keeps the other’s ass out of trouble. This trust is beneficial to both parties and is healthy (a speculation) in the process of becoming a better person.

Yet another type of trust is observed between a God (in today’s sense) and a believer. This I like to call, Blind trust. Some argue that this type of trust is just a pacifier for man’s insecurities. Some say that this is the superior type because of certain unconditional aspects of such a relationship.

Trust is also one of the most basic needs of man. He needs to be secure in his peer group, society and in his own self. Deprive him on one of the aspects of this need and he falls like a crying baby to the abyss of grave insecurity.

As this entry comes to a close, I would like to extend my hand to those who are deprived of the privilege of having type 2 and 3(I can’t do much with a lack of type 1). I’ve been a frequent “shoulder-to-lean-on-seeker” myself and I find that this can be very frustrating, draining and degrading.

As for those on the other side of the fence, you “trust-breakers” … I’d rather keep my mouth shut :)